The most common problem I see when people are giving evidence about their own case (or as a witness for someone else) is that they label behaviour rather than saying what actually happened. Make your statements specific about who said or did what.

For example:
– Stop saying “they were financially controlling.” Start saying “they changed my online banking passwords so I couldn’t access my money”.
– Stop saying “they were verbally abusive.” Start saying “they called me an [insert insult here] and screamed at me in front of the kids.”
– Stop saying “they harassed me”. Start saying “they sent me 30 text messages in one day while I was at work, even after I asked them to stop”.
– Stop saying “they threatened me”. Start saying “they told me if I leave, I will never see the kids again”.
– Stop saying “they intimidated me.” Start saying “the blocked the doorway so I could not leave.”

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